Dear Future Hubby,
I figured I’d give you a little bit of a road map when it comes to the people in my life, both friends and guys you should either try and be like or try to not be like. Familiarize yourself with Team DFH. You’ll be hearing a lot more about it in the future and meeting others as well.
Way back in the day when I went to college, it was all about him. It was all about him for a few years after too. He was the best of both Pseudo-Boyfriend worlds. We met first day Freshman year and he was the last person I said goodbye to when I left to move back to California after I graduated. He was there for me through some of the best times and the worst times. He knew my faults but never faulted me for any of them. We just got each other. We’ve lost almost all contact, with the occasional email or hand written letter passing between the two of us. But he’s always going to be the guy, my first love, the one that sadly, every other guys kind of gets compared to until someone else comes along.
We met at our old place of work and decided that we really were the same person, just trapped in different bodies. We have the same interests in TV, Movies, books, boys, the same tastes, the same dislikes, the same sense of humor, so clearly, this made us best friends, even when I left for a new job. I know she is someone I can always talk to about anything, who will listen to every detail about my quest for Future Hubby, and then be totally on board when I want to go see the latest Twilight movie.
KHiggers is my twin in life and in the relationship world. She’s been one of my best friends since college despite going to different school, living states apart, and only getting together every few years. She’s a rockstar in the sense that she listens to me vent my frustrations about boys and dating and I do the same for her. She’s the type of friend that calls me when she sees her crush walking down the street and needs to be talked out of following him (and she does the same for me as well).
Best guy friend who at one point (and sometimes still does) acted very much in Emotional Pseudo-Boyfriend mode. He has a girlfriend now and ‘m quite proud of him for sticking this one out. We’ve had our ups and downs, our drunken “What exactly are we doing?!?!?” walks home, our date-esque moments, but at the end of the day, someone ::cough:: couldn’t (or didn’t want to) actually move it forward. I’ve moved past it, as has he, and I’m honestly just very glad to still have him as one of my best friends.
Retainer of the current crush crown for his ability to know exactly when I’m about to forget him. Harmless flirting when meeting him over the summer solidified him as a front runner and I officially gave him the crown after spending a couple of months having to hang out with him due to a common interest. Sadly, he’s not from here and eventually returned back east where he lives, but that doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten him. Like I mentioned, he’s the master of texting/calling/IMing at the exact moment when I’m about to pass the crown on to someone else.
We’ve been friends for a little over the year and in the past six months, the boy has gotten EXTREMELY nosey about who I’m dating, when I want to get married, how many kids I want, my sex life, and everything else relationship related that has made me start to question if these questions were coming from a place of just random curiosity or a place of trying to size up the competition. It also helps that he’s a really good friends as well; something I’ve always wanted a potential boyfriend to be first. Unfortunately, he continually is sending me mixed signals that leaves me wondering if I’m reading into things or if he’s just not up for making a move.
Made up of JAA-Rule, Skinny Jeans, The Suit, Prosciutto, and Elf, this is one of my main groups of LA friends. We all met by working at the same company and even though none of us work there anymore, we still get together every month for drinks, gossip, and general hand holding through life. I consider these people some of my closest friends, regardless if I don’t see them for a month or so. They’ve seen me laugh, they’ve seen my cry, they’ve told me how to deal with guys, dates, life and vice versa.
My Favorite Mistake
I’m a fan of the term “poor life choices” and this guy was definitely one of them back in my college days. However, as the years have gone by, he’s actually turned out to be a pretty decent friend, which I would have never thought was possible at the time of said “poor life choice.” It makes me glad to see that even when shit happens, there are some guys that can actually put shit aside and be friends.
Your Future Wife